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Friday, April 26, 2013

The Big Three Oh.



Though some of you might be surprised because I look young, I turn the BIG 3-0 today!  And lemme tell ya: it. feels. awesome.

While in movies and TV and even among some of my friends there seems to be an aversion to getting older, I'm embracing it with open arms.  Why?  Because I absolutely love the person I've become after these 30 years!

I've done a lot of hard work--a LOT--over the last few years to become who I am today.  While I did spend some energy thinking of what I would accomplish in my 20s, a wise mentor advised me at 19 years old and through out the rest of college to focus my 20s on the question, "What kind of person am I becoming?"  Rather than focusing so much on things I would do in my 20s or adding to my list of accomplishments my primary focus in my 20s was to shape my character.  Was I becoming the type of person I wanted to be with the type of character I wanted to have? 

I did the hard work of letting myself be shaped into someone that was more patient, more loving, more gentle, and more faithful.  I sought to have stronger character and deeper integrity by doing the harder things that you know are right even when no one is watching.  I learned to be slower to anger and quicker to forgive.  Even before I got married I sought to become someone that would love, serve, and honor my husband well.  I learned not only to walk alongside the poor and the marginalized but I learned to learn from them, find God in them, and to receive from them.  I received the hard lessons in life that made me more selfless and humble and less self-serving while at the same time growing in being rooted and established as someone who is deeply loved.  And I learned to lean into grace.

Sometimes it was fun, but most of the time it was not pretty.  (Right?  Who really thinks rooting out your pride and growing in humility is fun?  Not my idea of a good time.)  But as I sit here at 30 years old, more free in myself and more free than I've ever been to love others well, I can very easily say that all of it was worth it.

So yes, I love that I'm 30 because I see each year of my 20s as a badge earned by the hard work of letting myself be smoothed out and shaped more and more into the person I want to become, and there's no way I would want those years taken from me.  No way--I've earned every one of those years!

Thirties, here I come.  Let's get it poppin!




73 comments:

  1. Happy Birthday!! That was beautifully written and very inspiring and encouraging to someone with half of their 20's left :) Hope it's the best birthday ever!
    -Meagan
    Gloss and Threads

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  2. Love it!!! (But I agree - growth is not always easy or comfortable.)

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  3. Happy birthday! It's so great to hear someone's POSITIVE feelings on turning 30 for a change :)

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  4. This is so awesome - you rock!!! Such a great outlook. I am going to bookmark this for when I'm turning 30, not too far behind you!!! (28 club). HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!
    -♥- Rachel (for the birds)

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  5. Happy birthday! I LOVE your outlook on turning 30. I think it's a hard birthday for a lot of people, but it doesn't need to be something bad. I'm turning the big 3-0 in July :)

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart
    $50 Target Giveaway!

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  6. happy birthday! i have 2 years of my 20s left.... well, 2 years + 1 day as my birthday is tomorrow! this is a great post, with a great outlook. :)

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  7. I turned the big 3-0 in February and I really wish I had the same positive outlook on it as you do. I kicked and screamed and threw major tantrums and was eventually dragged in to my 30's. Now that I'm here, hey, it's not so bad. It's cozy and I'm feeling more confident and relaxed in it every day. Happy Birthday and welcome to your 30's! Make it a great day!

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  8. Kerrie WilliamsFriday, April 26, 2013

    I turn 30 this year and I'm stoked :) Happy Birthday Audrey!!

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  9. I wish someone had given me that kind of advice in my teens! Still, I was pretty positive about turning 30 - I joked about not being able to have a drink to "dull the pain" (I was 8 months pregnant on my 30th birthday) but I was really very content and happy with my life. I'll be 35 in a few months and I can honestly say that my 30s are great! I'm much more confident in who I am and Whose I am.
    Happy Birthday!

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  10. Maricel EdwardsFriday, April 26, 2013

    Happy birthday, Audrey! You look amazing but more importantly, you are amazing! I may not know you IRL but words speak volumes, and visiting your blog everyday has shown me what a generous and kind heart you have. Keep on keeping on, girl! It only gets better from here!


    www.myclosetcatalogue.com

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  11. Happy Birthday! I love that you are looking forward to 30! Personally, I can't wait to have my 20's over with. What a hot mess some of those years have been!

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  12. beautiful post! best words i've ever heard about aging.

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  13. Jennifer DuBoseFriday, April 26, 2013

    Happy birthday!! I know how you feel turned 30 last year!

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  14. Happy Happy Birthday Audrey!!!
    Hope you have a great and awesome day. You are a lovely person to read :) I really love your blog.

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  15. Happy Birthday Audrey! You have provided me with such a great perspective on life (I'm in my twenties, so I'm looking towards who I want to become). I hope you have a beautiful day! :)

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  16. Tempie @ The Texas PeachFriday, April 26, 2013

    Happy Birthday! Hope you have an awesome day, Audrey!!

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  17. What a great outlook :) Happy birthday!

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  18. happy birthday!

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  19. Happy Birthday Audrey! You're amazing!!! Thanks for sharing your perspective on life and fashion with us :)

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  20. Happy Birthday! You do look quite young and thats awesome :) Keep them guessing ;-)

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  21. Happy Birthday!!

    Julia
    www.livingoninspiration.com

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  22. Happy Birthday to you and me both! I'm 31 today though, but I entered my thirties much how you are! I was ready to start enjoying the benefits of all the hard work I put in during my twenties! Enjoy your day girl!

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  23. Shoshana MorrisFriday, April 26, 2013

    Inspiring words. :) Thank you and Happy Birthday

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  24. Happy birthday!! I hope you have an amazing day!
    ~Sara
    sarastrauss.blogspot.com

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  25. Happy birthday! And who even knows what 30 looks like? I keep assuming it looks younger and younger, now that I'm a year away from it :) Way to be you, lady. And I'm with you - every year just gets better when we're working on who we want to become.

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  26. Happy Birthday! I'm 31, and I totally believe that the 30s are AMAZING!

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  27. HAPPY BIRTHDAY OLD LADY!!!! LOL, j/k, because I'm like 6 months older than you.

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  28. I just turned 42 this week! Lovin my 40's too! Life just keeps getting better...

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  29. Happy Birthday! Enjoy 30!

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  30. MidwesternDreamerFriday, April 26, 2013

    Happy Birthday! As a fellow 1983-er, I agree that 30 feels great! When people are surprised when they find out I am 30, I often wonder, "what exactly do they think a thirty-year-old looks like?". :-) Thanks for sharing these special moments and insights, as well as your everyday moments and thoughts with us. God Bless You!

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  31. Happy birthday! My 30th is coming up in about 6 weeks and I'm feeling pretty good about it!

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  32. Great post Audrey! Happy birthday!!

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  33. Happy Birthday! I love your blog and that beautiful quote at the end. Thanks for sharing!

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  34. Happy Birthday!! Some people don't get older, just more lovely! God bless. <3


    ~Julie




    http://tokyoblossomboutique.blogspot.com

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  35. Happy birthday! Best wishes for a wonderful day!!

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  36. Such a beautiful outlook on life. Happy birthday!!

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  37. Happy birthday, beautiful! If you want a present of cloth menstrual products, let me know, as I sell them and I enjoy your blog so much that I think you deserve a little something.

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  38. Happy birthday, great advice shared.

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  39. Happy birthday! I just found your blog a few weeks ago. I don't usually comment on blogs, but I thought it was the least I could do considering you've changed my life. It might not seem like a big deal, but reading through your blog has changed the way I look at clothes and therefore changed my life. I'll be 30 next year too, but as a mom of three I kind of lost myself. I'm excited to find my style and grow as we'll! Thank you so much!

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  40. Very cool! I turned thirty this month, too--exactly ten days ago, actually. I really, really struggled with idea, right up until the day it actually happened. I think I struggled because youth is something I have always identified myself with. I am the youngest of my family, I have always looked several years younger than I am, and I am very much young-at-heart. How do you still hang on to that at 30? In the end, I realized you don't--and I am okay with that. As I start this next chapter of my life, I am firmly planted as an adult, a role model, an exemplar of maturity. Reading your post helped me understand just how much that matters. So, thanks!

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  41. Happy Birthday! May God bless you a lot =]

    Peace,
    Glória
    Yellow Blog [blog design] - http://yellowblog.storenvy.com
    Check out my modern, fun, and classy blog designs!

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  42. Happy Birthday pretty lady! What a wonderful post, definitely things that I will be keeping in my as I try to carry out the end of my 20s gracefully! So happy to see you embracing a new decade with open arms!

    xx
    Here&Now

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  43. Happy Birthday!!!! Welcome to the club! God bless you!

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  44. Happy 30th Birthday!! I hope you had a lovely day and a blessed year ahead!

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  45. Haha, thanks for commenting, Rachel! Best of luck as you regain your sense of style!

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  46. Happy birthday!! I haven't figured out why people stress out about turning 30 so much, because I share your philosophy and as a result have found my 30s infinitely more fun than my 20s.

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  47. Happy Birthday Audrey! My 30s were better than my 20s and my 40s are way better than my 30s! Thanks for all your styling and shopping advice. The ladies at work have noticed that I'm dressing more "stylish".

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  48. Now I know why I like looking at your pictures so much - it's because you're pretty INSIDE and out!
    Happy Birthday from a 40-something gal who took a bit longer to learn those character lessons.

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  49. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! As a new reader, I love your blog. Enjoy your day!

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  50. Happy birthday! 30 looks great on you!

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  51. Happy birthday Audrey!! Great day to be born! (My birthday was also yesterday haha!) Hope you had a wonderful day! :)

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  52. Happy Happy Birthday my friend!

    www.kacieskloset.blogspot.com
    www.daisyraeboutique.com

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  53. Happy (belated) birthday! I love this post, thank you for inspiring me to embrace my 30th birthday this year as well. I have done a lot of growing and I should be proud of that!


    -AJ
    FitTravelerAJ.com

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  54. Happy Birthday, Audrey!!! Holy moly, I definitely would have never guessed! you not only look absolutely lovely, you are an absolutely lovely person and I hope you had the most wonderful birthday - you deserve it!

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  55. That's great advice!
    Hope you had an awesome birthday! I turned 30 on April 24th! Whoop whoop! My son turned 1 on the 25th, so lots of celebrating going on!
    Love your blog!

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  56. Happy Birthday! Beautiful post.

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  57. Happy Birthday Audrey! I turn 30 myself next month and this post was inspiring. Thanks for sharing!

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  58. HappinessatmidlifeSaturday, April 27, 2013

    Happy Birthday Audrey - 30s are a wonderful times!!! Enjoy!




    Alice
    www.happinessatmidlife.com

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  59. Aww! Happy Birthday Audrey! I hope you had a great day and thanks for sharing!

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  60. Happy birthday, Audrey! What a wonderful post. I love that you are embracing your age - to me, that's the best way to age :) I really enjoyed hearing what you sought to do in throughout your 20s. I'm 25 now, and am doing my best to enjoy the moment and be proud of the things I've accomplished, all while seeking to grow and mature gracefully. I hope you had a fantastic birthday, and here's to being 30!!!

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  61. Happy birthday! I really like your outfits! I appreciate you taking the time t post cute outfits! Have a great bday weekend!

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  62. Happy Birthday! 30 looks good on you. I love your blog, you always look great!

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  63. Beautiful post. I hope I can be more gracious, humble and kind by the time I reach 30. Happy birthday! :)

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  64. Hey Audrey! Happy Birthday! Just wanted to let you know that this blog post keeps coming up in my conversations! This morning while meeting with one of our student leaders it was, "Become the right person, the right person is looking for" (ie work on your character, not looking for a guy). Then tonight in our church small group it was another conversation about how to develop your character and I loved getting to share your example of choosing the hard thing when no one is looking. Bet you didn't think when you started a fashion blog you thought you'd be helping other staff as they lead and challenged others. :) Feliz Cumpleanos friend!

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  65. Happy birthday! Thanks for this post. I'm only 24 but I'm already starting to feel old. I think the perspective you have is awesome and it's encouraging me to focus on shaping my character to be more Christ-like instead of worrying about silly things like what I want to do before I'm 25/30. You are awesome!

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  66. Very late, but Happy, Happy! You are such an inspiration to so many people, you're an encourager and a cheerleader, I'm happy you got so much birthday love to prove it! All best for your next year filled with adventure, growing, life lessons, and lots of love!

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