Thursday, June 23, 2011

Rock-Scar



Top: Old Navy (shop)
Olive Skirt: Anthro
Belt: Forever 21
Orange Pumps: Urban Outfitters (shop)

I was already planning to wear this outfit for my 30 for 30, but I'm also dedicating this to the Dress Your Best "challenge" by Academichic.

We're supposed to make a list of body parts we love and show them off rather than hiding the parts of ourselves we don't like.  While I do like my boney ole collarbones, I actually chose this for Dress Your Best because it shows off a part of me that I do tend to hide:




This crazy scar.

In the summer of 2001 I underwent scoliosis surgery and earned this scar that actually runs 9 inches long.  The incision itself was a clean line as shown in the pic above, and I actually don't find that to be so bad.  But somewhere along the way my skin got agitated and started to break out in weird additional scarring and patches around the incision...TMI?  Haha, sorry.

At one point the patches spread all over my back and even looked like leopard print, and it was that kind of stuff that made me self-conscious.  It clears and gets worse in waves, and right now it's like only 80% clear but you can't see it since the patches begin just below where this shirt hits.

I mostly get self-conscious when I'm choosing party dresses since they tend to be strapless or have lower backs.  The thought of being at a wedding that includes people I don't know staring at my patchy scarring and wondering about it behind my back, (literally), makes me shy away from exposing it at all.

Coming up on 10 years of having this scar (and the patches), I would like to switch gears to embracing my scar and "wearing" it confidently and proudly rather than hiding it.  It's a part of who I am, so why not embrace it?

Justin Timberlake once said, "Sexy, to me, is the way you carry what you have. I have a big nose, but I rock it."  Right on, JT, right on.  Why should I bother spending anymore energy into hiding my scar, patches and all?  Why NOT just rock it?

Are you dressing your best?  What are you rockin?

13 comments:

  1. My friend has a few scars that are pretty bad, and she always says that scars are things of beauty because they are part of the road map of the life you led to get to this day. She is really incredibly graceful in dealing with scars that, to other people, would seem completely disfiguring or embarrassing. While I would definitely notice your scar, it doesn't look horrific or gross or anything like that to me. Coming from a completely hypothetical standpoint, I'd say rock your adorable self, scar and all. (PS That shirt is adorable.)

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  2. Gracias, chica, for your encouragement. 

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  3. embrace it girl!! 
    its a totally cute outfit and I hope you never hesitate in wearing something that you love
    because of it...

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  4. I totally agree that you should rock it!  Padma Lakshmi (host, Top Chef) rocks the scar on her arm and I think it's awesome that she doesn't feel she needs to hide or cover it.  You are beautiful and anyone who would pay more attention to your scar than to you isn't worth your time!

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  5. embrace!  i also thought of padma lakshmi's scar on her arm and how she's proud to show it.  unfortunately, my sister suffers from keloids (excessive scar tissue growth).  she can get it from even the tiniest pimple on her back, so much so that she has to get steroid injections every month to keep them from growing out of control.  she never wears anything sleeveless or backless :(

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  6. I have a scar on my chest from an open heart surgery when I was 11. I was so self-conscious about it, especially during my teen years. Being a shy girl, I hate that attention on me, people would ask me what had happened, so for the longest time, I would wear shirts that would cover up the scar. It was hard because that meant I wouldn't wear v-neck or round neck shirts, and I resort to wearing mostly t-shirts. But I got tired of wearing boring shirts, so I told myself to get over it, so when I started college, I also started wearing shirts that showed about an inch of the scar. I still get asked questions about it, but I just think, well, if they have a problem about it, they don't have to look. 

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  7. That is so beautiful! I feel very "at-home" with this article. However, I've never had surgery before. I love your outfit! You look so adorable! Following you!

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  8. I love the JT quote. It really is about just being comfortable in your own skin, defects and all. Scars can be such a road block--I always see those Mederma commercials and I think "is that what I'm supposed to think about my scars, that they need to be covered up and hidden or faded out?" No, not really. I have more important things to worry about, like what colour to paint my toenails or which way I should take home.

    Totally off topic--do you like those shoes (which look great with the top, btw!)? I've been considering getting a pair myself but I'm wary of buying shoes online. And I don't know what colour to get, of course.

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  9. I do like these shoes!  I actually got them as a gift.  I want the red ones that Kendi always wears too.  At first I didn't know what to do with orange but I've figured out a few options and I *might* like the orange better than the red now.  But who knows...I don't have the red yet to compare!  

    Anyway, I like them, but to warn you, I had to put heel liners in the back because they kept slipping off, AND I had to put shoe paddings on the toes cuz the balls of my feet hurt after a little.  However, with both of those paddings they fit like a glove.  

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  10. Good for you! My little girl has had two surgeries on her abdomen, and currently wears a brace for scoliosis (she may need surgery for that in the future). I always tell her to be proud of her "battle scars", because they show what a brave and tough girl she is with all that she's been through.

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  11. It's so brave of you to share your scar. I just found your blog a few days and have been looking through your archives to get ideas and found this post. I had the same scoliosis surgery when I was 11 years old, now 15 years later, I'm still learning to embrace my scar. I don't care around people that know that me and half the time I don't think about it. But if I'm gonna be going somewhere that I don't know a lot of people, I'll typically stay covered under a cardigan. Mostly because I'm always cold, but it covers the scar, too.

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